Elijah Herbert
October 8^th 2010

Mediator

            Xavier is a pretty chill guy who’s easy to talk to. He is sometimes a little to generous with people to the point where he neglects his work and free time. He mostly chills with his good friend Isaac. Isaac has the same problem, but he sometimes takes it to the extreme. Xavier friends, Ashley, Isaac Kyle, Paul and Isaiah where a pretty solid group. But like every group they all have the occasional problems. Isaac and Kyle always been close friends in the pas, but when a student Ashley came to town they slowly spilt apart. To Isaac it seemed like Kyle was throwing away their friendship of nothing, but to Kyle he couldn’t understand what the big deal was. Xavier being a good friend stepped in to mediate the problem 9 while neglecting his own homework due the next 6 hours). He told Kyle that the knows that that was not the right thing to do. You don’t cuff other guys’ girls not unless you want a problem. He also told Kyle that he understands why he’s upset but no girl is worth losing a friend over even if Kyle made the wrong choice. “These plenty of other fish in the sea don’t hold a grudge over something like this” they both agreed to let it go and shake hands the next day on it. Now it was 3 am and Kyle could finish his essay. The irony behind this was the relationship between Kyle and Ashley only lasted approximately 2 and ½ weeks. On another occasion Isaac again having problems with yet another “ friend” Paul this wasn’t as severe as the other occasion but just more immature. This was over name calling and just down right disrespect on Paul’s part. It was getting to the point where Isaac was ready to swing the next time he Paul said something out of place to him. Xavier again steps in but this time it was more one sided criticism of Paul than Isaac . Paul realized that what he was doing was wrong and apologized and they went about their business. ( Due to all the fighting going on Xavier forgot his math exam was the next day !)Other times Xavier helps people with homework he shouldn’t which, he feels that at times he is  to good of a listener and mediator with other peoples problems. These problems normally occur during work , midterms ,night, and while he’s doing home work. He stays up later into the night doing work and studying which causes him not to be alert and do well on test for lack of sleep. But he has come to learn that it’s ok to be a good friend and help out once in while but don’t let it get in the way of his work.